“Wow! I wish that program was available to me when I was growing up,” I thought to myself as they explained their organizational mission. But I was not there to dream of what could have been. I was there to listen to them describe their vision for the film that would be presented at their annual “Diamonds and Sneakers Gala”. They wanted me to highlight the behind the scenes work that the Trinity chapter puts into implementing their initiatives, promote their cause, raise awareness and fundraise. They wanted the audience to be inspired and motivated to help and realize it takes more than good looks to make it work! (Just kidding here, but they are a gorgeous group of women.)
Having after school programs is one thing, but parents should also be reminded to play their role in setting their kiddos up for success. It’s sometimes difficult to realize that your children grow, and come to grips with the fact that whilst they will always be your little angels, they aren’t babies anymore. You want them to grow to be their own, beautiful individuals. And sometimes, that means giving them their own space to do real work!
Create their own office space with a medium/ large desk and comfortable chair designated specifically for homework, reading, studying, arts and crafts. No more paper scattered all over the kitchen table! Create a list of tasks that helps to establish a daily routine. It’s posted on the wall and a copy is kept in their school binder as a reminder.
- Keep in touch with their teacher. Let the teacher know what’s going on at home and I definitely want to know what’s going on at school.
- Get some professional help! I’m a mom but I realize my kids may not want to talk to me about everything. I solicited the help of a professional adolescent counselor to make sure their emotional needs are addressed and they explore and express their feelings in positive ways. If you have health insurance, it’s a covered benefit so why not use it! Call to see if your insurance has an EAP or Employee Assistance Program to take advantage of these inexpensive or even free services.
- Hold your kids accountable. Treat them with encouraging words when they do their chores and follow their routine and provide consequences when they don’t. I have no qualms with taking away privileges or letting them miss a friend’s party due to not following the rules. I tell them, rules and chores are put in place to keep our home and our lives in order. Granted I was a free spirit and allowed to do A LOT growing up, but we were taught parameters and we rarely, if ever crossed the line…or else!